I am a subscriber to O Magazine and have been so for about 6 years now. It is always filled with uplifting articles, great personal stories and other insightful bits to help you Live Your Best Life (LYBL) whether that be business, family, romantic, spiritual or otherwise. I have taken many lessons from O Mag over the years and used the tools provided in my personal growth and development. One of these was written by Life Coach Martha Beck back in 2011. That year, with the knowledge that my time in the Marines was coming to an end, I began to IMAGINE what my future would look like. I soon realised that I needed to identify some things and ask myself some questions before I could truly ENVISION my best life. Beck’s piece titled, The questions are all useful and some will resonate more so that others.
The first question seems simple and almost useless. 1. What questions should I be asking myself? However, Beck says “At first I thought asking yourself what you should be asking yourself was redundant. It isn’t. Without this question, you wouldn’t ask any others, so it gets top billing. It creates an alert, thoughtful mind state, ideal for ferreting out the information you most need in every situation. Ask it frequently.”
I have found this to be true. Sometimes I get bogged down by the what ifs in my head, by the choices before, by the comparison with others in the same age bracket, by all the things I haven’t done in my life. So bogged down that I can see the forest for the trees and am not able to find the path up ahead amongst the trunks and branches. I am at that point in my life (again it seems) but really what I need to do is ask myself the right questions and then go about answering them. The series of questions that follow build on each other. For instance when I first did the 20 questions number 8. What is my body telling me?, resonated with me as I was making plans to leave the Marines but was still unsure. Beck writes that your body, “is a wise, capable creature. It recoils from what’s bad for us, and leans into what’s good. Let it.” My body at the time, was recoiling from the work it took to maintain a high level of physical fitness. Since the previous year I had suffered one injury after another, the worse being a pulled right hamstring and an abductor. Previously, I had rolled my ankles too many times to count as well as doing something to my right shoulder where I couldn’t do weighted shrugs and certain other exercises requiring the use of my right shoulder. My body was talking. Loudly, drowning out the skeptical brain scared to leave the comfort of the known and venture out. My body was saying, you are done missy, you are done now before the next injury requires surgery. That is not a scare tactic, many Marines in my age range and some younger were having surgeries due to the injuries sustained during training or on deployment. I saw the light, heard the surgery sounds and kept walking down the exit ramp away from the Corps and the routines I had gotten accustomed to after 8 years.
That was just one question, however it helped to clarify something within myself and confirm the steps I was taking at the time. Now my body is telling me I need to get my ever-widening lazy butt back to the gym. Curves are appreciated, but a marshmallow looking girl is not. I’m not saying I am a marshmallow, but I love food so if I want to continue to indulge I need to find a way to get rid of the extra calories. I’ve come to the realization that I need a gym, preferably a personal trainer or small class because YouTube isn’t cutting it for me. I am lazy. I will roll over and pull the covers over my head every single day unless I have to go be accountable to someone. I know there is a gym near where I live, I have known this for about a month. Yet, I haven’t stopped in to check it out or sign up. Partly, because I am not the beast in the gym I used to be and it’s very demoralizing when you have to start over with the 10 lbs weights and they are heavy.
There I go again digressing from the questions. My aim with this post is to encourage you to use one of the many tools out there to improve your outlook and hopefully your life.
Now that I’ve told you about the gym and needing to get fitness level up, I will go find the gym and get to working out. I know someone will ask me about what my body is saying sooner or later so I better get to it. The above picture is the goal 112 pounds (appx 51kg) of awesomeness. It is my goal for weight, body size and level of physical fitness. I could do 45-60 mins of cardio and then lift weights for an hour (I was deployed on ship with not much else to do).
Take a look at the 20 Questions That Could Change Your Life and start asking yourself some of them. If you’ve done something similar please leave a note in the comment section.